If you’ve ever felt the frustration of ending a sexual encounter too soon….then you know how painful and frustrating that can be.

If you want more sexual control in the bedroom, allow me to introduce you to “Elevator Kegels”.

Standard Kegels, or PC pumps, as they’re called, are a common technique for controlling ejaculation.

I’m gonna give you the specific anatomical instructions on how you do a standard Kegel, then I’ll tell you about how to do an “Elevator Kegel”.

STANDARD KEGELS

Basically, you’re pulling up on the pelvic floor, contracting the area between your testicles and your anus. At full contraction, you’re contracting your anus as well. Contract, hold for 5 seconds, relax, and repeat, — sets of 20 – 50.

This is useful for increasing your sexual stamina (lasting time) by regulating the flow of sexual energy, moving it up the spine and distributing it throughout the body so it doesn’t all build up in the sex organs and have you “go over the edge.”

In doing so, I’ve found TONS more ejaculatory control and sexual stamina through this technique.
I recently learned a modification of this technique, “Elevator Kegels” – taught to me by Destin Gerek, featured on the Authentic Sexual Power program. It’s a strength-building way of having even MORE control.

ELEVATOR KEGELS

Squeeze to:

1/3 full strength, hold for 1 second,
2/3 full strength, hold for 1 second,
full strength, hold for 1 second,
then back to 2/3, hold for 1 second,
1/3, then full release.
And repeat – floor 1, 2, 3, 2, 1…

Try to make each “floor” as crisp and distinct as possible. Don’t “blend” the floors together. These give you more control over your PC muscle than traditional kegels.

You can do them daily, I do them lying in bed when I wake up in the morning, and while driving around town. Try doing sets of 20, working up to sets of 50…

You should notice a difference in your stamina after a few weeks!

Enjoy,

Bryan
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Here’s an article Jim Benson wrote, on the power of being Receptive — relates directly to the Sexual Energy Mastery Program:

“On Receiving: Fuck Me God, Like A Wild Dog”

The single greatest factor for experiencing higher states of pleasure, is this:

Cultivating a state of receptivity.
(the ability to receive)

In sexual situations, you can receive from:
a. Yourself
b. Your partner
c. Source itself

Receiving from yourself

As men raised in a feminist, Puritanical-based society, many of us have been trained to pay attention to the woman we’re with rather than ourselves. This creates an internal dialogue that further separates us from our in-the-moment experience. Is she enjoying herself? Am I good enough? What should I do next?

We’re asking these questions instead of, “Am I enjoying this? Does this feel good to me? What would feel better right now?”

We mistakenly believe that we need to learn some new technique to better please our partner when in fact our energy would be better spent learning to 1) more completely entering our “animal bodies” and experience our “fuck” energy, and 2) feel and appropriately express our own needs, wants, desires and preferences.

“Receiving from yourself” also means setting time aside for pleasure, and learning to touch yourself in a way that gives you the most pleasure. This may be an “unlearning” for many of us. We’re used to giving to others, and then if there’s any left over, we get a little bit.

Regarding self-pleasuring, many of us were raised in sexually repressive environments. The times we spent touching ourselves sexually, in our childhood or adolescence, were most likely short-lived and furtive, with a spectre of “getting caught” hanging over us.

As we begin to give to ourselves first, we create new pathways of pleasure. In my coaching work, I often encourage clients to create a “pleasure list”, or activities they can do that give them a sense of joy or renewal. These activities can cost money or not, and can be enjoyed solo or with another. Examples from my personal list:

• Soak in a hot tub
• Sitting meditation
• Self-pleasuring
• Walk to the creek
• Bounce on the trampoline
• Receive a massage
• Dance to music (solo or with others)
• Sex with a partner
• Buy flowers and arrange them
• Play frisbee on the beach
• Visit my favorite hot springs for a minimum of 2 days

The key is to do at least one thing from your pleasure list every day, and preferably two or three. This is a great way to make the process of giving to yourself more conscious.

Slow down and create a sacred space. No matter how busy you are, you can always find time to do something for yourself during the day. Some days it might seem that all you have time for is taking a deep breath and giving thanks before eating a meal. Other times you can create a deeper sacred space by setting more time aside. Set an intention to relax and receive. Warm the room. Light candles, put on some music. Take a bath with scented oils.

Self-massage is a great way to understand what feels good to you. What kind of touch do you most enjoy? Deep and slow, light and ticklish, percussive and intense? Do you like a variety? Perhaps different areas of your body prefer different kinds of touch at different times. Practice giving this kind of massage to yourself before a self-pleasuring session.

Experiment with touching your entire body before focusing on your genitals. Allow yourself to change positions, writhe and make some sound. Using massage oil everywhere on your body can be a very sensual experience, too.

When it’s time to focus on your genitals, again, take time to explore what feels good to you. Do your best to break out of your adolescent habits: Allow the journey of sensation to be the goal, not a quick, ejaculatory orgasm. Play with your balls. Experiment with different strokes on the shaft and head of your cock. Meanwhile, continue to touch yourself everywhere. Writhe. Make sounds.

Receiving from a partner

Once you know what most turns you on, you’re better able to communicate your wants and desires to your partner. For many men, this is even more challenging than spending time consciously self-pleasuring. Perhaps you’ve been wounded in the past by partners who rejected your requests in some way, and you’ve made an internal decision not to ever let that happen again.

If that sounds like you, then it may helpful to know that learning to receive from a partner is a process of recovery of a lost part of yourself. You can learn to ask for what you want as an adult who can take care of himself no matter what happens. This adult knows how to talk to himself to get through challenging moments in life, knows how to hear “no” without taking it personally, and knows how to negotiate to get needs met as best he can.

Directly asking for sex. Many of us are afraid of saying something like, “I’ve been noticing how beautiful you look today, and I’d love to make love with you tonight.” We’re afraid of rejection, and would rather try another route, like giving our partner a shoulder massage and hoping she’ll get “in the mood.” Try the direct approach instead. Even if she says “no”, she’ll notice if you react or collapse. If you don’t, she’ll find that attractive; she may find that her No changes to a Yes later on.

Asking for the kind of touch you want. One of my early sexual partners was not interested in my cock at all, it seemed, and I started to make up a story that my genitals weren’t attractive or desirable. Many times I wanted my cock held, without sexual stimulation, but I wasn’t able to say anything for fear of rejection. Later I found out that oftentimes a woman won’t touch a man’s genitals because she’s afraid that doing so will make him think that she wants sex.

So I eventually learned (it took many years) to say something like, “I’m not feeling particularly sexual now, but it would be deeply comforting for me if you would hold my cock.” If she agreed, then I’d tell her just how I wanted to be held, which was another great practice opportunity – learning I could be held exactly how I wanted. Most women are happy to oblige with this kind of thing, if they’re asked directly.

Remember: you’re not a nerdy adolescent, or a “beggar with a bowl,” looking for scraps of sexual loving attention. You’re an adult male who loves himself enough to get his needs met.

This process of asking for what you want in the bedroom has a ripple effect on the rest of your life. When you take more charge of getting your pleasure needs met, you’ll find out pretty quickly the areas of your life where you’re not living at your greatest. Then you can start asking for what you want in those areas.

Receiving from the Divine

Source is giving to us continually. We take no breath that is absent of the grace of the Divine. We’ve all had moments where we’ve been acutely conscious of this Presence. Sometimes this experience stretches into days, weeks, or years.

How do we open to experiencing this Divine Presence in our lives? Perhaps we can only plow the field, sow the seeds, and pray for rain. If that’s true, than here’s a partial list from my Farmer’s Almanac:

• Cover the basics: eat well, stay physically active, get enough sleep.
• Meditate regularly.
• Slow your life down.
• Notice the details of nature.
• Being grateful for what you have opens a doorway to receiving more.
• Learn to listen to the small, still voice of your intuition.
• Understand that everyone and everything is your teacher
• Pray to be made into an instrument of Divine Will.

And how can we invite a greater experience of the Divine into our erotic life? I had a prayer that I spoke occasionally for a few years that conveyed the essence of what I wanted to experience: “Fuck me, God, like a wild dog, and leave me dead by the side of the road.” Not exactly a Rumi poem! But it spoke to my wild nature, and my desire to be taken and used completely by a Great Power. If we’re “yin” to God’s “yang”, then we can open up to our own, natural yang expression – in the bedroom and the conference room.

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From Bryan:
Topic of conversation: Which of these 3 is it easiest for YOU to receive from? Which one is hardest? What do you make of that? Leave your comments below.

Jim’s “Access Your Evolved Lover” guided visualization was the highlight of last night’s free call on Sexual Energy Mastery –

Download it here
(right-click and “Save As” to download)

We also covered:

* 4 bedroom pitfalls, and how to overcome them (fixation on “size”, going off too soon, focus on pleasing her, and dealing with your sexual kinks)…

…and answered questions about the upcoming Sexual Energy Mastery program.

Speaking of which, we’re moving the first SEM call back one week due to a number of reasons:

1) Technical Glitch: Several of you can’t log in to access the online training videos, and we’re harassing our hosting service to address this ASAP.

2) Strength-in-Numbers: There’s 140 guys enrolled so far (awesome!), and “word-of-mouth” interest in this program is still snowballing — friends are signing up with friends, and we want this “Band of brothers” to be as full and strong as possible when we kick off the first call. So we’re keeping enrollment open till next Thursday.

Once again, the “Evolved Lover” recording:

Download it here
(right-click and “Save As” to download)

I mentioned to my friend Suparna about the Sexual Energy Mastery program we’ve been running…

And she started raving about an experience she had with a man that “awakened” her, through Sexual Energy:

This guy had been cultivating his Sexual Energy for many years…and “woke her up” from being incapable of climaxing with a man, to becoming multiorgasmic (and now, this can happen just from being TOUCHED).

I asked Suparna to share her story with you, so you have an idea of what’s possible through cultivating your Sexual Energy.

Disclaimer: No guarantees that you’re going to make a woman multi-orgasmic just by touching them after this program! (That’s the advanced course )

For THIS program, the focus is:

* Full ejaculatory control
* More sensation, and a deeper relationship with yourself and your sexuality
* Multiple- and full-body orgasmic capacity…

EARLY BIRD PRICING ENDS TONITE
AT MIDNIGHT

There are still slots left in the Sexual Energy Mastery program, but the price goes up by $100 TONIGHT at midnight.

Enroll now, here:

SexualEnergyMastery.com

Decker reminded me about this classic clip as we opened enrollment for the
Sexual Energy Mastery program.

It’s from one of our favorite comics, Dave Chapelle:

The Sexual Energy Mastery program is all about:

* Deeper exploration of your sexuality and your orgasm

* Multiple and Full-body orgasms, including brain-gasms and heart-gasms

* Full ejaculatory control, so you can last as long as you want, even if she’s in the
throes of passion…

NOTE: Sexual Energy Mastery early-bird pricing ENDS This Thursday, so enroll now if you haven’t already. There are times when acting quickly DOES pay off

Check out all the details here: http://SexualEnergyMastery.com

Check it out, here:

The Sexual Energy Mastery Program

Meet Matthew–

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In this video, you’ll hear about:

* The 3 major keys to developing full ejaculatory control and multi-orgasmic capabilities

* How Matthew experienced his first one… (almost edited out his story here, too “out there”
for non-Northern Californians!)

* How you don’t have to be a weird yogi, an Eastern mystic or a porn star to have mastery over this basic human function –Matthew’s so…NORMAL!

WHY IS AMP TALKING ABOUT “SEX STUFF”?

Our culture has a very shallow relationship towards sex — it’s given such a superficial treatment–when there’s so much more to the picture, even in our own bodies.

We are never really taught to explore at a deeper level how our bodies work, and what’s possible. Which is CRAZY, considering that sexuality is one of the most rewarding, dynamic, and EDGY aspects of being alive.

I’m sharing this interview with you to inspire you about what’s possible, because later this week, we’re opening enrollment for a program that will support you in having the extraordinary experiences that Matthew’s been having…

HAVE YOU HAD AN EXTRAORDINARY DISCOVERY ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY?

Maybe it was your first non-ejaculatory orgasm, maybe multiple- or full-body orgasms, or even
heart-gasms or brain-gasms, as Jim talks about….

Post in the comments below, your stories and experiences, including any practices that made these openings possible for you, and the impact these openings have had in your life…!